Ibadan court dissolves 13-year old marriage over wife’s denial of sex to husband & incurable stubbornness

A Grade A Customary Court sitting in Mapo, Ibadan, has officially ended a 13-year marriage between Durojaye Akingbade and his estranged wife, Olabisi, citing persistent marital discord, stubbornness, and sexual starvation.

Delivering the judgment, the Court President, Mrs. S.M. Akintayo, ruled that the union had broken down irretrievably and that the petitioner, Akingbade, could no longer be compelled to remain in the marriage.

She emphasized that the court’s priority was to maintain peace and ordered both parties to part ways.

In addition to dissolving the marriage, Akintayo issued a restraining order preventing Olabisi from harassing, threatening, or interfering in Akingbade’s private life henceforth.

During his testimony, Akingbade, a teacher, lamented the deteriorating state of their marriage.

He claimed that his wife had ceased obeying his instructions and neglected her domestic responsibilities.

“Since Olabisi moved in with me as a wife, it had been one day, one trouble in my home,” he told the court.

“It got to a point when Olabisi stopped cooking for me and the children, such that the three children relied on food gotten from our relatives.”

He further alleged that she had withheld sexual relations for years.

“Worst still, she has been denying me sexual intercourse and has not allowed me my conjugal right for the past three years. Before then, I forced my way through because she did whatever pleased her,” he stated.

Akingbade also told the court, “My lord, Olabisi has refused to pack out of my house and so, I disconnected the electrical supply to her apartment.”

In her defense, Olabisi, who is also a teacher, dismissed most of her husband’s claims, accusing him of deceit and infidelity.

She told the court, “Akingbade’s friends usually influenced him that they had sex anytime they wished and anywhere.”

“In fact, I decided to excuse myself from further sexual activities with him when he complained that he contracted sexual disease through me.”

She further alleged, “Even his younger brother died of Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome (AIDS). Furthermore, Akingbade married three wives between 2020 and 2024 without informing me.”

Olabisi described her husband as a “pathological liar and a womaniser,” adding that throughout the marriage, Akingbade’s mother remained his closest companion.